Friday, July 4, 2014

POP!! goes the Memories. Happy 4th


Just returned from Braums where I went to get Burgers and Ice cream for Joe and I.   That will be my 4th of July celebration…not having to cook, curled up on the couch after a good burger with a bowl of ice cream and Joe watching a movie.  Fireworks are great but the older I get I seem to have gone into the mindset of my dad who would always say “you’ve seen one firework show, you’ve seen ‘em all” when we would talk excitedly about going to see the fireworks on the 4th of July at some city park or other venue.

Anyway, back to Braums.  As I pulled up there were a couple of little boys pulled up on bikes that looked like they were held together by duct tape.  The Braums I went to is only a few miles from the RV park and in a poor, though safe neighborhood.  One was about 6, the other maybe 10.  Freckle faced and red headed, they looked like a couple of little Tom Sawyers.  I went into the store and ordered the burgers.  As I waited I went over and looked at the ice cream to decide what kind to buy.  So many flavors!  I remember  when I was a kid we would usually get one ½ gallon of Neopolitan about once a month when my dad got paid.  I always wanted something different.  But with 5 kids Neopolitan was the logical choice since some of us liked vanilla and some of us liked chocolate and we could only afford one half gallon.  Every once in a while, my dad and I would go for a drive leaving everyone else at home and we would go to this ice cream place  called Ashburns Ice Cream.  My dad called it Assburns and I would giggle at his joke.  There I would get to choose whatever flavor I wanted.  I was careful in my choice because it was such a treat and a secret treat at that and I didn’t want to mess up and get something that I didn’t like.  I think I only failed once in my choice and that was when I ordered Pistachio thinking it sounded exotic.  Most of the time, I settled on banana nut.  To this day when I taste banana nut ice cream I think of my dad and Assburns ice cream and I smile. 

Having chosen my ice cream flavors for the night, Toffee bark for Joe and Strawberry Chocolate chip for me, I went to the counter to pay.  The little boys were in front of me.  As I stood behind them the older of the two ordered 2 candy bar sundaes and a water and when the younger brother said, no I want a coke, not water, he was told to be quiet by the big brother…we only have $5.00.  The clerk rang up their ice cream and the total came to $5.86.  The older one turned to the little one and said, “you got any money in your pocket?”  “I think so”, he replied and turned his pocket inside out.  Out rolled a couple of marbles, a bottle cap and a few pennies and a nickel or two.  I half expected to see frogs and worms too!  As he went off to chase down the rolling marbles, I said to the counter lady, “I’ll pay for it…and add 2 small cokes”.  The older boy whipped around and looked at me in total disbelief. “  Thanks lady!”  he said and his smile could’ve lit up a room.  Happy 4th boys! I said.  I have 2 boys too but they are all grown up now.  As the little one came back to the counter, the older one said to him “this lady paid for our ice cream AND A COKE! “  Then he tried to hand me the $5.00 bill in his hand.  “You keep it” I said. This is my treat.  The little boy started jumping up and down he was so excited. We can buy some firecrackers now Brody! he yelled out excitedly .  Then without hesitation, the older man behind me who had witnessed the whole thing took a ten out of his pocket and handed it to the boy.  Happy 4th of July he said.  Be sure to ask your mama before you buy firecrackers though and be really careful.  The lady at the counter turned to give the candy bar sundae order to the teenager at the ice cream case and I paid and headed out the door.  As I turned to go, the little boy ran up and hugged me and said “this is the best 4th of July!” 

It’s funny isn’t it how the littlest thing can make the biggest difference.  Not just to those 2 little boys either.  Everyone in that store was smiling.  And as I sat eating my burger and anticipating my ice cream tonight I realized how very blessed I have been in my own life.  It wasn’t a lot, just a few dollars.  But to those boys it was A LOT!   

I remember many 4th of July celebrations as a kid.  There were always fireworks in our neighborhood.  That was before pop bottle rockets were outlawed and before you had to have permits to shoot fireworks in your own front yard and when everywhere you looked there were kids with sparklers and punks in shorts and sandals, or still in their swimsuits from playing in the sprinkler.  Adults in those green webbed lawn chairs, some with a beer in their hand.  The smell of barbeque grills and hot dogs.  Someone would be working on homemade ice cream, the old fashioned way where you had to keep adding salt and ice and a cup towel over the top to keep the cold in.  Cranking the handle was a big deal and I remember how it felt like a privilege to be able to help with that.  We usually only had a few fireworks because money was tight but for that one night every year, we felt like kings as we opened our family pack and sorted out the kiddie fireworks and put the others in order of how we were going to shoot them off, always saving the biggest for last.

One of my favorite 4th of July memories was on the back patio of our house in Stillwater.  I must’ve been about 14 or 15th.  The Anderson boys, Artie and Billy, lived across the pasture from our backyard and we had been having bottle rocket fights with them all day (in fun of course).  At some point my dad had come outside to watch us doing fireworks in the backyard. One of us lit one of those chaser things and it went up in the air and then all around the patio as we jumped out of its way and finally it went up and then down and in almost slow motion as I remember it landed in my dad’s boot.  Had we had a video camera I think we would’ve won America’s Funniest Video that year.  My dad jumped up, shaking his leg trying to get his boot off, cussing at the top of his lungs.  My mom ran out and grabbed his boot and pulled it off.  And then we all started to laugh. And laugh, and laugh some more. 

When I was 3, though I don’t remember it, the story was told to me that I had picked up a firecracker called a cherry bomb while out in the backyard with my brothers.  Apparently, this worked by throwing it as hard as you could to the ground and then it would pop.  I thought it was a cherry  jawbreaker.  I picked it up, put it in my mouth and bit down.  My mom said the next thing she heard was Jimmy screaming that I had blown my mouth up.  My mom scooped me up, took me inside and cleaned out my mouth which was bleeding from the explosion.  Then she said she gave me a popsicle.  Popsicles I should say because she said for the next week the inside of my mouth had blisters from the burns on my gums.  I didn’t lose any teeth.  Might explain why I don’t like cherry jawbreakers.

When my boys got to the age where they liked doing fireworks I would sit back and watch them as their dad supervised.  I remember feeling bad for them the summers that I had them for the 4th after the divorce because their fireworks purchase was pretty slim (I couldn’t see spending money to watch things blow up).  They would usually end up at their dads at some point during the day even then because like most grown me I know, he would get as excited as they would about fireworks and spend way too much money at the stand down the road. 

Other than one year when they blew up my mailbox (with their Uncle Grant) standing by (he never heard the end of that) and the year that Andy and several of his buddies pooled their money, bought a bunch of firecrackers and rigged them together to be set off all at once at a lot down the road (now a park) causing me to have a minor panic attack when I realized what they were planning….no one was hurt….none of the 4th of July’s were memorable, at least for any bad things.

As fireworks go, you’ve seen one, you’ve seen em all as my dad says.  Though I must admit the fireworks display we saw in San Francisco one year at the pier, with all sorts of weird people wandering around and the fireworks being shot off from Alcatraz Island to the synchronized patriotic music holds first place in my memory. 

My mom and dad were married on the 4th of July in 1952 and had she lived, this would be their 62nd anniversary.   That in itself always made the 4th of July special to me.  I always thought it was ironic that they got married on Independence day. 

As it draws closer to dark now, I can almost hear the excited voices of my little boys many years ago waiting for dark so they could help their dad pop firecrackers.  Tonight I will think of two other little boys who are probably at home with $15.00 worth of firecrackers waiting for dark to shoot them off in west Tulsa.  That makes me smile.
Happy 4th to al

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